What to Do When You're On the Outside Looking In

Hey there, Highly Sensitive Person -

You know those areas of your life that are unsatisfying, but you have no idea how to improve them?

Let me share a funny story with you.

There's a common tool life coaches use called the Wheel of Life.

The wheel typically has 6-8 areas of your life (or 6-8 subcategories of a topic) that you rate from 1-10.

Higher scores make the wheel look more round, and lower scores create "divots" in your wheel.

If your wheel is wobbly, you try to reinflate that low area by improving that area of your life.

Two years ago, as I was going through coach training, I did this Wheel of Life exercise during one of our weekend intensive trainings.

At the time, my scores were something like

Romance 8/10

Work 9/10

Money 8/10

Fun 4/10

Community 3/10

Naturally, my coach (now a good friend) asked me, "Would you like to talk about this 3/10 score in Community?"

And I said, "Nope! I'd rather talk about Fun. Let's do that."

Ha!

Avoiding the difficult topic that I feel confused and uncomfortable about? Much safer!

Flashforward a year and a half after that conversation, and I realize that I actually DO want to work on my Community.

I have so many beautiful one-on-one relationships that I LOVE.

But I too have felt like the "outsider looking in" because it sometimes might feel like the world's going on without you.

And you may very well let the world pass you by because you're afraid to engage and get overwhelmed, overstimulated, and uncomfortable.

What I've discovered over the last six months of hosting workshops, running programs, continuing a program into a small-group mastermind, and talking with a TON of people lately is that...

being part of the right community feels pretty freaking good.

It's just that most HSPs don't know where to find their people.

Being part of a community helps you calm your nervous system because you know other people have your back, that they get you for you, that you're appreciated for who you are.

And it helps you connect because you get to use your listening superpower, your ability to understand deeply, and your empathy to also help others.

I don't know a single Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) who doesn't enjoy helping others in one way or another.

This is why I'm talking about What to Do When You're On the Outside Looking In on this week's episode of  The Highly Sensitive Club.

Listen and / or watch to this week's episode on all the usual suspects:

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I'm covering: 

• The mindset work that will truly help you feel open and ready to be part of something bigger.
  

• Why community is so important to HSPs in particular and what opportunities it brings you.
  

• A special announcement!
  

I know this week's topic is likely to resonate with you because I hear it ALL. THE. TIME.

I know you want to feel like you belong and that you have your own "tribe" that actually feels good - and not like a weird, macho sports fandom.

Because you do belong. 

You are part of the community of Highly Sensitive People because you ARE an HSP, whether you actively interact with other HSPs or not.

Which is also why, I've created a special group coaching community called Highly Sensitive Society.

It's a place for you to dip your toe into coaching, to work on self-improvement and learning, AND to connect with other HSPs in structured events and in an online space.

Connect, Grow, and Belong.

That's what this group coaching community is all about.

Learn about Highly Sensitive Society here

You absolutely belong, and I can't wait to welcome you to Highly Sensitive Society -

Steph