Authenticity and Integrity while Building Safety and Trust as a Highly Sensitive Person

Hi, Highly Sensitive Person-

Imagine this -

You hop on the Zoom call, and it's your first time joining this group.

You know maybe one or two people, if any, but that's about it for now.

While some people might be chatting and checking in with each other, you're quietly observing, taking it all in, waiting to see if someone will call on you, checking out everyone's backgrounds, and thinking about a few dozen different things.

As soon as this meeting is over, you're going to check in with your people to let them know how it went.

You'll be able to share highlights, the vibe in the "room," if there was any drama, who seems to get along with whom (or not), how you felt, if you shared anything, and a whole slew of other details you picked up.

If the way you are in a new setting doesn't feel like how you are with your close people, you might be having some thoughts that you should be acting differently.

"I feel like I'm being kinda fake."

"I'm holding back."

"Maybe I should be more outgoing."

I have heard these kinds of things from so many Highly Sensitive People (HSPs).

You're not being fake if you're only sharing some of who you are - even if you know the group well.

It means you're being discerning and thoughtful about who gets to see all of you.

There's a big difference between intentionally sharing the parts of you that you choose to show in certain contexts and being fake or inauthentic.

In this week's episode of the Highly Sensitive Club, I talk about how to tell the difference between being authentic in unfamiliar situations and when you're putting on a persona to get along.

Listen on your favorite podcast app and / or watch on YouTube.

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In the episode, you'll learn the:

• Main aspect of High Sensitivity that becomes a huge asset in these situations

• Benefits of being authentic while taking your time building trust

• Signs to spot when you're being fake or inauthentic and why that might be coming up for you

• Way to find ultimate safety so you can bring any level of authenticity you choose to any situation or relationship

I had times in my life when I was being fake and didn't even realize it, I was so out of touch with who I really was inside.

Through regular efforts and lots of support, I'm now one of those HSPs who can go into a new room and shine the way I would with my close people - if I choose to.

I love making other people feel welcome and included, even when I'm the "new kid" in the room too.

If I can go from someone who didn't even know I was wearing a mask 24/7 to someone who brings a lot of personality into every interaction... 

You can absolutely reset your own thoughts about your authenticity and choose how you want to show up too.

Give the episode a watch or a listen and let me know if this resonates. I would love to know where you fall on this spectrum.

Big, warm vibes -

Steph

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