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Get Out of Self-Judgement Loops

Hey there, Highly Sensitive Person -

Imagine you're talking to your best friend.

You tell her that you've had a tough week, you didn't get as much done as you wanted to, and you're feeling really down today.

Then imagine your friend says, "Well, you really should have just done it anyway. That was dumb. You could've done it better."

You'd probably be thinking, "I can't believe she said that to me!"

And yet...

That's exactly how we often talk to ourselves.

We Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) have gotten all the same messages as everyone else about "tough love" and "just doing it" when we're having a hard time.

Yet, as HSPs, we internalize and feel the guilt and shame around this attitude SO MUCH MORE INTENSELY than the average person.

A hallmark of high sensitivity is intense emotions, more intense than most people.

Imagine how much this "firm but loving" approach impacts the average person, and then double or triple that effect on your highly sensitive nervous system and brain.

Yeah, no bueno.

Some well-intentioned people you looked up to probably thought this was the best (or only) way to teach you how to be capable and self-sufficient.

But internalizing that voice and using it to try to motivate yourself more often than not has the opposite effect.

It probably makes you want to binge-watch Netflix, distract yourself with a book, or go straight to the fridge for comfort.

You can drop this habit and learn a new skill that will help you break out of your funk faster and back into who you want to be.

If you really want to make progress, get things done, and simply be okay with who you are without all the guilt and shame, the key is to be loving and compassionate towards yourself.

That's exactly what I'm showing you how to do in this week's episode of The Highly Sensitive Club.

I've been working with my Emotional Alchemists on this very thing lately, and it's something I constantly practice for myself.

This is really impactful, and in the episode I break down:

  • What happens in your brain, heart, and body when you rely on the "tough love" approach. 

  • New thoughts and beliefs that can help you move through the tough stuff faster and with more grace. 

  • How to work with real-life situations that might feel heavy and uncomfortable so you can find your inner compassion and acceptance.

This simple shift in the way you treat yourself might be the perfect next step to calm your highly sensitive nervous system and start moving forward again.

Big, warm vibes -


P.S. tl;dr - stop beating yourself up for not being more "productive" by giving yourself love, acceptance, and compassion. This is really the secret sauce to get out of self-judgement and guilt spirals.

Want more help? Book a call with me, and we'll talk about what you want, what's getting in your way, and how I can help you get through the tough stuff to get to your goals on the other side.

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