Vulnerability and Courage for HSPs

Hi there, Highly Sensitive Person -

I was feeling VERY called out yesterday... in a good way.

In fact, my mentees have been repeating things I say back to me so accurately, I've laughed out loud a lot lately.

The power of coaching.

In this particular mentor session, I was getting coached on "writer's block."

I had no idea what I wanted to talk about today, and I was worrying about what to say, if it would go over well with you, if I would sound scattered or disorganized, you know, the usual.

We discovered that I had a belief that "Worrying is productive."

I bet you're familiar with this thought too, as a fellow Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

We are often worriers as the "look, then leap" crowd.

Turns out, the only thing worry was producing for me was more worry.

All my creative energy was going towards creating worry, not creating useful content that might help you.



Interesting.



Getting below the worry actually opened up the idea of being vulnerable.

Ew.

The idea of not having a topic fully processed or planned out, of doing it "messier" than normal, of facing a new kind of discomfort, wasn't super appealing.

Shocker.



But, I was able to try on a few new beliefs that might help you too.



1. Vulnerable = valuable

I truly believe that we need more vulnerability right now.



Not rants and raves about all the things that are wrong in our lives and in the world.



Not super polished, perfectly produced content.



Sharing what's real for us and letting other people in just a little bit more (to start).



2. The whole point of vulnerability is to Connect.

Worrying makes it all about me.

Getting over the discomfort and worry and self-judgement means I actually get to help you feel less alone, gain a new perspective, and maybe improve a small piece of your life too.

I didn't realize how much connection meant to me until I dug a little deeper.

I actually got a little teary thinking about it.

I was really moved by remembering that we have the power to affect each other in profound, weird, delightful ways just by being ourselves.

3. Vulnerability is a strength.

Again, ew.

I believe that logically, but it's not the typical way we see strength.

It's forcing my brain to grow a little and to see strengths in lots of different forms.



Not just the traditional (dare I say, masculine) ways.

Any of this resonating with you?



If so, this week's episode of the Highly Sensitive Club is for you.

Listen on your favorite podcast app and / or watch on YouTube.

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In the episode, I cover:

• 5 ways you're likely using your highly sensitive qualities to bypass being truly vulnerable with others - and with yourself.

  

• How lack of vulnerability is showing up in different areas of your life.

  

• What courage is, what it looks like in action, and how it helps you tap into vulnerability.

  
  

• How courage can help you improve every area of your life in vulnerable, powerful ways.

  

Vulnerability is difficult for most people but can be especially scary for HSPs.



We feel emotions more intensely, we process more, and we pick up on other people's emotions easily too.

The possibility of getting hurt means more pain for us highly sensitive humans.

And that's why it's even more important for us to learn how to be vulnerable in ways that match our sensitivity.

The world needs more connection, more depth, more meaning, and less noise.

These are qualities you have in spades!

Learning to be vulnerable means you have a better life, but you also help heal the world and make it better too.

Vulnerability is the way to share your highly sensitive gifts.

So let's figure it out together.

Biggest, warmest vibes your way -

Steph

P.S. Not sure how to even start letting down your walls and practicing courage and vulnerability? I've been there too, and I can help you. Book a call with me to see if we're a good fit to face these highly sensitive challenges together - so you can share your gifts with more ease and resilience.