Attachment Styles and High Sensitivity

Hi, Highly Sensitive Person -

I'm gonna get a little serious on you today.

What's your overall vibe on how you grew up?

Do you often think it should have been different or "better"?

You might have TV-worthy montages in your head of lively family dinners, the perfect sound-bite when you were feeling down, and always standing tall in the face of things that scared you.

In other words, you have this vision of an alternate reality in which everything went exactly as you would have liked it to go.

This seems like a cathartic or satisfying exercise, but it creates a lot of harm when you stay stuck in the past, wishing things could have been different.

None of this is to say that your experience was wrong, that you should "just get over it," or that it wasn't as bad as you think.

There are a lot of wounds and trauma that are deep and impactful and real, and they deserve all the love and compassion and healing you can give them.

Your Truth is your Truth.

That is 1000% valid.



I spent years in counseling working through my own wounds, and it's one of the most transformative experiences of my life.

But I bring this up because knowing how our minds work and processing things as an adult with new skills and tools can be a very empowering experience.

And I'm all about empowering experiences.

To that end, I want to be thoughtful and gentle and immensely sensitive to what you went through in the past.

And, I want you to know that you always have the option to rewrite the way you see your story and to show up differently now, in the present.

As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), your brain has always picked up on subtle cues, deeper nuances, and extra context that a neurotypical brain often doesn't.

As a kid?

All that input goes into a childhood mind that isn't fully developed yet and doesn't always know how to make sense of the things it takes in.

So, you create coping mechanisms and ways of being that keep you as safe as you can make yourself.

The problem lies when you're no longer in that situation, no longer that age, but still using the same techniques and coping mechanisms.

This is where your Attachment Style comes in.

I talk about the four attachment styles and how they show up for HSPs in this week's episode of the Highly Sensitive Club.

Listen on your favorite podcast app and / or watch on YouTube.

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In the episode, I discuss:

• an overview of the four attachment styles and how they develop 

• how your attachment style is likely showing up in your relationships with yourself, with others, and with areas of your life 

• the attachment style that can be very common for HSPs 

• practical ways to go from insecure to secure attachment

Whatever your attachment style is, it's never too late to gain secure attachments to yourself, to others, and to your life.

You can use that big, beautiful, adult brain to help you make sense of how you're showing up in the present and use that knowledge and awareness to make different choices for yourself moving forward.



Your high sensitivity can actually be a HUGE asset in gaining a secure attachment style as a adult.

It's never too late to redirect yourself onto the path you most want.

Big, warm vibes -

Steph

P.S. Want to know more about yourself so you can make better choices and take action towards your dreams? I can help!

1. Book a call with me so we can make a plan for your goal and see if working together is a good fit. You'll walk away knowing yourself better and having a plan, no matter what you decide. 

2. Hop on the waitlist for the next live round of Emotional Alchemy - August 2024! Perfect for HSPs who want to learn how to manage their own energy, let go of other people's emotions, and maybe even stop picking up other people's stuff in the first place.